It’s Up to You

Life is pretty sweet sometimes, and sometimes it’s less than sweet.  Most people think that to be positive you have to be loud and boisterous, and ignore what’s happening around you — reality.  But the truth is… that’s not true.  I know a lot of quietly positive people. When life comes at them with all it’s variety, they just handle it, and move on. They don’t spend a time labeling it, or making value judgements, they just process “the event” and go.

Shakespeare wrote, “there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.”  If it rains on the way to your picnic, it truly isn’t the end of the world… it’s just rain.  If you like rain, you’re ecstatic!  Some people dance in the stuff, stomp through puddles, kiss each other under umbrellas, or just sit back and enjoy the soothing sound that rain makes. A while back, I was taking a trip and sent a message to a friend “complaining” about all the rain I had driven through. She responded with, “oh, those were kisses I sent your way; I’m sorry if I sent too many.”  Did my perspective change?  Uhhh… yeah ;-)

Positivity is a mind set; a system for looking at life and it’s varied occurrences. It’s a perspective, a view point, and the hardest part about it is that you must consciously CHOOSE a positive perspective.  The question is, what do you want to choose?  Does it empower you to adopt an attitude of helplessness? From that perspective do you come up with resourceful solutions, or do you sit and wait for the other shoe to drop?

There’s a lot of area to cover in adopting a positive outlook for your life, and adapting to a positive outlook.  It’s an exercise, and takes practice to develop the mindset, but if you look around you’ll notice that the people who are happiest with life have mastered that mindset.  And as you know, “When you master your mindset, you master your life.”

Have an awesome day.


Kelvin Ringold

Born to John and Lora Ringold on October 24, 1953, grew up, went to school, graduated high school and joined the Air Force -- turned 18 in basic training. Did 20 years in the Air Force and retired in 1991. Moved to Syracuse, worked at University Hospital and retired from there at 55. During that 55 years... I learned some lessons, one of which is that LIFE is what we make it. I spend a major portion of my waking hours helping other people figure out the same thing. Life is what we make of it, and... "when you master your mindset, you master your life." That's my mission: living it, and teaching it.


  • I’m so glad I read this, even if it took me some time to get around to! Thank you much!!

  • Greetings, your awesomeness(es)! Thank you for your comments. I appreciate you :-) There was a time, when I didn’t realize how much my attitude affected my outcomes, and I (almost) wish I could say that I figured it out on my own, but I didn’t. It was a hard learned lesson, and I tested it a FEW times :-) until I understood. In the end, I needed the struggle so I could truly appreciate the lesson and it’s gift. And its a gift I pass on as often as I can. Thank you for sharing ;-)

  • Excellent reminder! It really is all in our perspective!

  • I love how your friend responded to your rain complaints. Beautiful!
    You made great points here, KeLvin. Having a positive mindset is a matter of conscious choice and it takes practice. We strengthen our commitment to that mindset by making a conscious choice about how we want to respond to life in the moments that life is not delivering what we want.

  • As I recently said to someone else, it’s like in the movie The Secret where the woman got to decide how she was going to respond to things based on how she woke up when the alarm went off. It does take a great mindset change, that’s for sure. I’ll admit that sometimes I’m good at it, sometimes I’m bad at it.

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