“Kelvin, are you real? How do you stay so positive?” “I knew you’d have a positive take on this for me. Thanks!” “I’m glad I saw you; I needed my Kelvin fix…” “You’re just naturally positive…” I get that all the time! I love it.
Truth be told, however, I’m not just naturally positive — at least I wasn’t in the beginning. I used to be grumpy; I used to always wait for the other shoe to drop. But I changed. I became positive, first, by decision, and by choice. And over the years I’ve conditioned myself to cultivate my positive outlook!
Anthony Robbins says, “nothing in life has any meaning, except the meaning you give it. So you can choose to give life a meaning that empowers you, rather than cripples you.” Zig Ziglar says that “positive thinking won’t let you do everything; but it will be let you do anything better than negative thinking will.
So how did I do it? Here’s the short list of what you can do to become a more positive person, if you want to.
Yes. DECIDE to be positive. How many happy, negative people do you know? Choose to be positive, uplifting and forward looking, and your life will change immediately. Make the decision to do what you need to do, to cultivate your winning attitude and mindset.
2. Turn off the news ! All of it.
I took a challenge — maybe it was a dare — about 30 years ago to stop listening to the news — radio, tv and newspapers. We are assaulted daily with all the bad news there is from around the WORLD. You wouldn’t sit and consent for someone to constantly hit you with a stick; it would hurt. It will have an effect on your attitude. The NEWS is a stick; a constant barrage of negative delivered with intensity and emotion, 99% of which you have zero ability to affect. Turn off the news, and tune in to your own power.
3. Positive People — Period
Birds of a feather flock together. It’s hard to fly with the eagles when you’re surrounded by turkeys. Associate with people who love life and who focus on the possibilities in life — not the liabilities in life. Seek them out! If you need help finding some, follow my Twitter stream or tune in to http://www.facebook.com/intenselypositive. Those are good starts :-)
4. Refrain from negative conversation — especially self talk.
This might sound redundant but it’s easy to be drawn into negative conversation and you’ll find yourself processing that. When you find yourself in or about to enter a negative conversation… disengage, have an appointment, go to the bathroom or whatever you need to do to get out of there. Gossiping around the water cooler at work… is deadly. More importantly, you spend hours and hours each day chattering to yourself, in your head, and research shows that 90% of that internal conversation is negative — abusive even!
5. Read something positive every day — on purpose! (note: this does NOT include a newspaper)
Engage your other senses. READ something positive, uplifting, empowering daily. And the best time is just before you go to sleep at night. Spend just 15 minutes reading something positive, uplifting, empowering and it’s the last thing on your mind before sleeping. When you wake up in the morning you’ll have a different mind set, because your brain had positive fuel to burn.
6. Do something nice for someone — and don’t let them know it was you ;-). I don’t have to explain that. Y0u felt good just thinking about it, didn’t you? Admit it.
7. Lastly… (*this is a bonus) find the song by Rare Earth; “I Just Want to Celebrate, Another Day of Living.” It’s on their Millennium album (get the track here for 99 cents ). Listen to it first thing in the morning — on the way to work would be awesome — and a couple of times during the day. I defy you to listen to that song (fairly loud, too) … and not feel better. I defy you.
That’s enough for now. I’ve got some recommended reading for you, too. If you’re interested, check out the three books that changed my life. Okay?
Follow this prescription for three weeks… and you’ll never stop. Experts say, it takes 21 days to develop a new habit. Do this for 21 days. Make a habit of being positive, and I promise you your world will change, because you’ll master your mindset; and when you master your mindset, you’ll master your life.
Have an awesome day.