Achieving Your Goals – Are You Making These 3 Dream Stealing Mistakes with Your Goals?

These days, a lot of people are talking about the Law of Attraction, and depending on who you listen to, they say that the Law of Attraction replaces the process of goal setting! Perhaps those people are focused enough to project their energy to make that work but for most of us the process of goal setting is still necessary because it helps us focus and fine-tune our attention — and intention — as well as our attracting energy. There are specific steps to goal setting, in my experience, and here are the 3 biggest mistakes that people make during the process and what to do instead.

Mistake #1 – Failing to write down your goals!  Figuring out what your goals are is one thing, but writing them down let’s you hone in on the specifics of what you want.  For instance, “I want to be rich” is not very specific, but thinking and writing down what “rich” means to you — how much money is that and what you might do or buy with it — adds some concrete form in your mind.  When you fail to write your goals, you deprive your mind of fuel to burn in reaching them.

What to do instead: Grab a pad and a pen and manually Write down your top 5 goals and what achieving them will mean in your life, to you, your spouse or family, friends you might help, so your mind knows exactly what you want and can start to create it for you. Manually writing them creates a kinesthetic link between your mind and body which strengthens the connection.

Mistake #2 — Failing to put your goals where you can see them constantly! When you go on cross country trip, do you look at the map once at the beginning of the trip and then forget about it until you get where you going? or look at the initial route on the GPS and then put it in the glove box?  Of course not. So what makes you think that you can write your goals down and then not look at them again until you’ve reached your goal?  It won’t happen.

What to do instead: Your goals need to be visible! You need to check that map and review it often; make sure you’re on the right path, recover from any detours and make sure you’re still headed where you THINK you’re headed. Refresh your vision at least daily, and preferably several times daily, to stay focused, remember what the dream looks like, and keep the Law of attraction working in your favor.

Mistake #3 — Failing to take the time to live your success. Looking at the list only gets you so far and the law of attraction is not activated by a casual familiarity; the Law of Attraction is activated and fed by a burning desire!

What to do instead:  Spend time with your dream, daily! Contemplate it, imagine it, participate in it in your mind. SEE that house; walk through every room in your mind.  Go to the car dealer and sit behind the wheel of your dream.  Smell it, feel it, KNOW what it feels like. Imagine that you already have it and how it feels to have it in your possession, because research has shown that the mind cannot tell the difference between what is real, or what is vividly imagined.  Live in your dream, in your mind, often.  Look, feel and act “as if” you already have it.

If you’re making any of these dream-stealing mistakes, now you know how to correct them: intensely and positively! See you next time.

Kelvin Ringold

Born to John and Lora Ringold on October 24, 1953, grew up, went to school, graduated high school and joined the Air Force -- turned 18 in basic training. Did 20 years in the Air Force and retired in 1991. Moved to Syracuse, worked at University Hospital and retired from there at 55. During that 55 years... I learned some lessons, one of which is that LIFE is what we make it. I spend a major portion of my waking hours helping other people figure out the same thing. Life is what we make of it, and... "when you master your mindset, you master your life." That's my mission: living it, and teaching it.


  • Thank you Kelvin! Excellent information. My response is simple but your words always inspire me intensely.

    • Ah, Jenn! My favorite :-) How are you, my friend. Thank you for taking the time to comment hear; you always make me feel worthwhile. Thank you for the kudos, and I look forward to seeing you in the not-to-distant future :-) Too-long-no-hug :-)

      Have an incredible day :-)

  • Great post Mr. Ringold. What’s funny is that I released my post yesterday on going for my dream, and it’s a dream to complete in a year. I actually wrote it 2 weeks ago and put plans in place to get me on the right road to achieving it.

    If anyone thinks that the Laws of Attraction means just thinking about something and it will come, they haven’t paid attention. It’s not about that at all. It’s about the things you mentioned above and then taking action steps towards those dreams. It also involves keeping your mind and energy open to opportunities that will come your way that you evaluate properly because you feel deeply that they’ll help you get to where you want to be.

    Love this;good job.

    • Thank you Mr. Mitchell for your comments; I very much appreciate you taking the time to read and respond to the post — I know how your schedule can me :-) Even I have been guilty of these 3 mistakes, at different times, but have been pleased to re-validate these steps over, and over and over. Plus I started using my dream board and it works amazing fast — but that’s a different post. Have a great day!

  • Tamara and Nanette! Thank you. Yes, Tamara, the better attitude is definitely the better vehicle. I remember back to the days when my attitude wasn’t so great and things kept going sour. GLAD I made those course corrections. Life’s a lot sweeter. Thank you for your kudos Nanette. I always try to offer tips but I’ve decided to work on being better at it — and more concise :-) Thank you for noticing. Have a great weekend you two!

  • Thanks Kelvin! Sometimes our goals don’t arrive fully assembled. Taking time each day to appreciate the pieces that we have so far is important so that we don’t tire out along the way. Even if the only piece we have is a better attitude, that’s something to celebrate—it’s our vehicle to actually reaching our goals.

  • This is a great post that offers some quick tips to keep your mind focused on goals and dreams. Thanks for the reminder that small things make a big difference.

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