Same Old Thinking

Life is very interesting, my friend. We set our sights, make our plans and head out on our trip, and very often we’re confronted with detours we hadn’t planned. Sometimes we can see clearly that the detour is necessary — rerouting can save the trip — and other times we can’t necessarily see why we had to detour. Some would use that as a rationale that goal setting is passe — of course, I ignore them and move on to the next conversation because. . . changing course is not the same as cancelling the trip. Every airplane (and I’m guessing most birds, ducks, geese and other flying life forms) get to their destinations by making a series of adjustments and course corrections enroute, bypassing obstructions, turbulence, bad weather and other problems. But, they get there.

Back in October I connected with a group called the Master Key Master Mind Alliance, who took me on a 6 month journey of self discovery — and in some ways a diversion — while I pretty much examined most of my beliefs, actions, motivations, and the core things that “make me tick.” Mind you, I felt I had all that together, because I constantly monitor my beliefs to see if they make sense to me; to see if anything has changed and if so, why.  Sometimes because of circumstances we can slip into a new belief and not realize it until we notice our actions aren’t consistent with our “previous self,” and questions like “why did I react that way” or “why did I say that?” cause us — at least me — to examine what’s changed, and what’s behind it.

So, MKMMA gave me 6 months of things to examine; to THINK about. Many of us “feel,” which for the most part is an involuntary response. Focused thought and examination, on the other hand, causes us to engage our minds and understand ourselves. Again, I’ve always done this, but as the late Dr. Wayne Dyer spoke, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” I’ve been looking at different things, and when you ask different questions… you sometimes get different answers :-)

compassI’m pleased to say that I remain fundamentally me. There were no monumental discoveries; though there were some pertinent tweaks. Many things I believed were validated with scientific proof. Some others not, and in the cases of things which were inconclusive my beliefs did not change. However, the journey — the questioning — is crucial because our beliefs make who we are — they make us do what we do! They tell us what’s good and what’s bad, what’s right and what’s wrong, what’s appropriate and what’s not, and a lot of our beliefs we were handed to us by someone else, and we accepted them as fact with no examination. Some of those beliefs give rise to serious internal conflicts when our internal rules say one thing but our heart and soul say another; and until we get those sorted out… there will be conflict within.

So that’s where I’ve been — and I’m back. And as time goes on, you will undoubtedly hear more about my journey and my thoughts and perhaps you’ll go on a little journey of your own. We shall see.

For now, have an outstanding week — or weekend — and we’ll chat again soon.

Take care for now.



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What does Friday mean to you? To a lot of people, it just means the end of the work week — or maybe the school week. And those people tend to give Friday a special power; the power to EASE tension, to relax, to end their responsibility for that preceding period. TGIF, they say — […]

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Change the Channel

October 24, 2015

It’s been a while, since I’ve written a blog post here. I apologize, and … I’m back! Lots of things have happened that distracted me. But, I HAVE been writing my Vitamin K – Daily Dose of Positive, so I’ve been busy, just for a limited audience.  So check out Vitamin K Daily for 4 […]

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Risk Being Seen…

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There is an old saying… “When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” In that regard each of us may be willing student waiting, looking for that teacher. But like many things in life, we have a preconceived concept of what that teacher should look like, how he or she should appear, the manner […]

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Milestone Monday!

October 20, 2014

Actually… today’s title is a little off — it was actually Milestone Saturday this past weekend. 5 years ago this past August 29th, I fired the boss and retired from University Hospital, to pursue my dream of motivational speaking and being a life coach. It was  — and is — a big dream.  A few […]

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Leaders Are Intensely Positive

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I’ve been studying leadership since… well… a long time :-) I joined the US Air Force at 17, and lots of leadership training ensued over the next 20 years. You develop your favorites. Ken Blanchard has always been one of my favorites. So when he teamed up with awesome Mark Miller, “and then there were […]

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Commence with a Winning Mindset

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It’s college commencement season! When I was married, I photographed weddings nearly every weekend, so I got to hear the wedding vows every week and it kept them fresh in my mind. LOL. I think we should find a way to listen to commencement messages every week, too, so we can hear that positive commencement […]

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Positivity Plus!

May 7, 2014

JUST a little reminiscing of our first Intensely Positive Meet and TweetUp ( and a reminder about our next one before your summer gets CRAZY busy and you’re running and biking and trailing on into August and September. Meet us at the Best Western Plus off Carrier Circle, on Tuesday May 13th and put some […]

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Recipe for a Tastier Life

April 28, 2014

Greetings, my friend.  Do you cook?  I cook! Not like a gourmet chef, for sure, but I do okay with my limited repertoire. A few days ago, this chunk of beef in my fridge was just dying to become a hamburger for my dinner. So I brought it out, then decided what seasonings I needed […]

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Winter Breakout – Positivity Prescription

February 9, 2014

Break out of your winter doldrums! Come laugh, talk, have fun and network with 150 of most Positive Upbeat Motivational and Uplifting people in Central New York; and YOU are one of them! BUT, I get ahead of myself. I started Intensely Positive back in 2010,  about the time I launched my Vitamin K – […]

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